However, what makes the Mother Daughter Brunch so special to me has nothing to do with the theme, venue, or even the food. It’s encapsulated in tiny moments leading up to the event, like my mother’s sheer, unadulterated excitement when she received the beautiful invitation or her nervous, repeated outfit changes as the Brunch drew ever closer. Choosing her outfit – to wear a hat, or not to wear a hat, that is the question – became a topic of conversation to which we frequently returned over the course of several weeks.
I think many Phi Beta Chi mothers may recognize my mom’s nerves. After all, the sorority means so much to all of us, and wanting to make a good impression is only human. But somewhere in the flurry of this-dress-or-that-dress, hat-or-no-hat, I never got to vocalize why the Brunch means so much to me. So, here goes:
Thank you so much for coming to the Mother Daughter Brunch. You looked perfect in your colorful dress and Carole Middleton-inspired hat, and getting to spend time with you at a tea party in a beautiful place meant the world to me.
But I want you to know that what made the event so special had nothing to do with your clothes, or my clothes, or the silly floppy hats that made it impossible for us to take selfies. It had nothing to do with the pictures we took, the food we nibbled, or the theme over which we obsessed. It was getting to spend time with you, plain and simple.
I really want you to know that no matter if you wore the blue dress or the floral dress, hat or no hat, or even if we’d decided to just wear jeans and old t-shirts, I would have been so proud of you. We would have laughed and sipped our tea just the same, and I would have had just as amazing of a time. I know you think this event is about sharing my sisterhood with you, and that’s true. But to me, it will always be more about sharing you with my sisterhood, and I hope you know – and always will know – how proud I am and always will be to share you with the world. I love you to the moon and back (but next time, no hats – we can’t go two events in a row without selfies J).